[CQ-Contest] Constructive feedback (was: why non-contesters hate us)

[k8gt at mi.rr.com]

Class acts, gentlemen.  People are tired of the confrontational approach, and I appreciate your showing us the way.  Thanks.

73, Gerry  K8GT



---- Robert Chudek <k0rc at pclink.com> wrote: 
> During the CQWW DX Phone contest last weekend I got the dreaded "QSO before" reply to one of my S&P calls. I never made it into their log. We have discussed that situation many times on this reflector and it's pretty much "preaching to the choir".
> 
> I took this mishap as an opportunity to turn it into an education opportunity. The station was a European Contest Club so my presumption was it could be a newer operator at the mic. He most likely didn't know the ramifications of sending "QSO B4" and not logging a second contact.
> 
> I sent a private message to the QRZ.COM email address of the club telling them about my experience. I received a very nice response thanking me for letting them know about this. I was told, like most clubs their population is a mix of seasoned contesters who are tutoring newer operators. They decided to forward my message to their club reflector and reported very favorable discussions that followed.
> 
> Mission accomplished.
> 
> If you are going to bring issues to the attention of other folks or clubs, you need to take the high road. You don't want to start your message with the classic Point / Counterpoint opening by Dan Aykroyd "Jane, you ignorant slut"! You are certain to get the well known response, "Dan, you pompous ass"!  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Weekend_Update
> 
> Had I vocalized my situation on this reflector I doubt it would have influenced ANYONE. Everyone here already knows to rework the station, log them, and move on. There were no contest clubs in my area 45 years ago, so I made many mistakes along the way. I still make mistakes, but my UBN reports help me understand where I can improve.
> 
> 73 de Bob - KØRC in MN
> 
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> Date: Wed, 31 Oct 2007 04:44:06 -0400
> From: "Shelby Summerville" <k4ww at arrl.net>
> Subject: Re: [CQ-Contest] why non-contesters hate us
> To: "Jim Smith" <jimsmith at shaw.ca>, <CQ-Contest at contesting.com>
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> Jim Smith wrote: "What do you think of the idea of sending an e-mail to the 
> holder of the
> call with the info as to what happened, when, freq, etc and ask him if
> he approves of this style of operation?"
> 
> I did the exact thing, once, after it happened to me. That particular 
> station has never interfered with me, since. I've always thought it was 
> better to discuss it, first, privately with the "offender"?
> 
> C'Ya, Shelby - K4WW 
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> 73 de Bob - KØRC in MN
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